When you're grieving the loss of a loved one, it can be really frustrating, discouraging, and downright infuriating when people say the most insensitive and downright silly things.
Since I've been grieving the loss of my mother, I've realized that we're in a horribly grief-illiterate society.
Frankly, I've been absolutely appalled by some of the insensitive remarks (people who, I believe, should know better) have made to me since Mom has died.
For instance, about a month or two after Mom passed away and I was dealing with lots of challenging, logistical and emotional repercussions, one friend and coach, who I greatly respect, basically told me to just "get over it." She also said it was time for me to get back to coaching sugar addicts release their addiction and reclaim their Sugar Power. (I tried to but realized that first, I needed to take time to heal. Stay tuned, because soon, I'll make an announcement about how I will soon be back to helping sugar addicts worldwide.)
Then, another friend and consultatant advised me to just "let go." Trust me, I've been trying by doing lots of things like tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique), meditating, and working out to do just that.
And a third person, who I had just met professionally and didn't know well, didn't even want to meet me for lunch or dinner (as I'm feeling more social) although we live nearby because she likes to surround herself with positive people. Ouch! (Little does she know that I'm normally an enthusiastic, optimistic woman.)
Thanks to grief guru David Kessler, you can get a great list of the 10 Best and Worst Things to Say to Someone in Grief.
Please share this valuable list with all your friends. After all, just about all are either grieving the loss of a loved one or we know someone who's doing that.
People desperately need to know how to react appropriately to us grievers. Thank you, David Kessler, for your great ideas.
By the way, thanks to the empowering, inspirational Louise Hay--who's been dubbed "the closest thing to a living saint"--I'm now easily letting go and rediscovering my joy, passion and determination to serve. More about that later.